these are definitely interesting points. There’s a lot to the argument that boys learn sex from porn. And a corresponding argument that girls learn romance from media targeted at them as well. And certainly, especially at the time you would have been a 13yo, the porn readily available to you would have been almost entirely heteronormative-male focused. There are certainly more options today easily available to a teen who know how to search and clear their browser history before mom finds it, but it’s certainly not balanced.

But that said, you’re right. If you want to see cis-hetero-female focused porn as a 13 yo in 2018, you certainly can find it without too much effort. But the fact that fanfic, or really any written erotica, is still a thing, implies that there is a certain fascination with the imaginative aspect of the engaging with your smut in addition to the titilatilation aspect. After all, bodice rippers still sell too…